Ok well I can't be in denial any more. Starting about the past 3 or 4 weeks or so I have noticed a bit of the dreaded milky stuff on the dipstick. I said naaah it can't be!!!

I have no symtoms of a blown head gasket.... I checked on Tuesday and there was some, Well today before I got in the car I checked the dipstick and there was more, and I could actually see a couple of water droplets that had condensed... it had been showing up only about every week so now it seems to have worsened or simply accumulated over time. So I can't deny it anymore I have water in the oil...

It seems to be a slow seep. I have no symptoms, it hasn't overheated,in fact the opposite.. no oil in the coolant, no measurable coolant loss, no water in the exaust etc... It's running very good actually!
So I found a FelPro gasket set that will be here tomorrow. I haven't done this to a Fiat before. I do have a book, but nothing beats a little advise from those who have actually done it! It looks pretty straight forward... A couple of questions. Will the valves have to be adjusted afterwards? What should I use on those exhaust studs to seal them? What size tap should I find to clean the head bolt holes?
Please hit me with any advise you have! This is not good timing, well it's never good.... It's been years since I did this level of wrenching..
UGH!
Thanks for any help!
Update
I just went down and changed my oil and filter BRRRRRRR!. The oil was black, it didn't look too bad, but it was a bit milky...